Why is it so hard to commit? …
As hard as I try, I can’t remember a time in my life or career where making and keeping a commitment to a friend or colleague has been so difficult. At one time if you agreed to a lunch, a meeting, or a contract, you had the meeting, you had lunch, and the contract was on your desk soon after the discussion was held. What I now find is this doesn’t seem to be true any longer. And this is not just my opinion, but the experiences of friends and colleagues as well.
A colleague asked me what I would do in a certain situation. He said that he had contacted an old friend to plan to get together for lunch. He called a few times, and got okay let’s do this with no commitment to time or place. He asked me if I thought he should continue to pursue with this person. I think not. There comes a time when you can ask only so many times without result and then kind of chalk it up to experience and move to something else.
Another colleague was talking recently about a business proposition, and the fact that all parties want this project to work out but no one wants to take the first step to writing the contract or taking the steps necessary to actually start the project. I don’t understand why anyone would agree to a project and then not find the time to make it happen.
Am I deluded or is this reality?
Are we all so busy these days that we can’t finalize a plan, or are we all so self important that we don’t have to finalize a plan? If it is our self-importance and/or ego, we have become a very selfish society.
What do you think?
Tags: Communications, Selfish